Wait…wait… Sam has never saved Dean in a “big” way?
What about how he hunted Gabriel AKA “The Trickster” for 6 months after Dean died the last and final time?
What about Sam winning poker against the witch to get all those years of Dean’s life back?
How about Sam jumping into the…
Even if that were true, so what? Does Dean get a medal? I hope Dean enjoys looking at his “I’m better than Sam” medal.
I did not say that. Jensen didn’t say that either. He said that Sam’s world is centered around himself and Dean’s is centered around Sam. And here we have what is called “codependency.” Usually, there is a caregiver (Dean) and narcissist (Sam). This is right in line.
so YOU decide that everything Sam has done is meaningless, so therefore he’s a narcissist. WTF? Would you go thru every episode and discount anything Sam has ever done positively, just to prove your theory? And I’m talking about YOU.
I give exactly ZERO shits what Jensen says.
And here we are back at Sam’s a narcissist. Holy wow, HOW? Is it because he literally says shit like “My life isn’t worth any more than anyone else’s.” Or was it the subtle tone in “A lot of people have it worst” when speaking about the insanity he suffered from tossing himself into a cage for however long with basically the two most powerful angry beings in existence? And lest anyone try to say that the reason he tossed himself in was because of some grandiose “It’s gotta be me” sentiment, the reason he’s cool with doing it is because of the whole “I’m the least of any of you” thing. Like how do people get narcissist from that?
Like okay I can see how in the early seasons, it really is “what is it about me? What is happening to me?” But I consider that a pretty healthy reaction to being a hunter in a hunting family who suddenly starts getting visions that scare his only support network and get the rest of the hunting community sniffing around because he might have to be put down. Like, yeah, it’s about Sam, because that’s kind of a big deal. That’s like someone finding out something big, say, that they’re adopted, trying to figure out what to do with that and talking about it to the one person close to him, and being told to shut up and stop being such a narcissist. Like. I’m looking for way to justify the narcissist thing and I just can’t find anything.
And right now, his world might be centered around himself. I wonder why? Is it because he’s just found out that there is literally no one left in the world who respects his decisions about his own life and body? He’s the only one he can count on, and he has some experience doubting that as well (what with his history of mental illness and all)? I wonder why he might be retreating a bit into figuring out how to cope with all of this. And yet, he jokes with Dean, allows Dean close to him, is willing to hunt with him, makes attempts to fix this. He’s standing his ground, but still giving Dean time to figure his own shit out so they can talk about it. So he could be acting more Sam-centric than he even is, and it would still be totally appropriate. So… where’s the narcissim? Hm. It’s a real head scratcher.
Sam dies, Dean acknowledges that Sam would not want to be brought back via a demon deal and does it anyway. He acknowledges that he is doing this because of his needs, not Sam’s. (“All Hell Breaks Loose.”) Dean makes Sam’s death all about Sam. But Sam is the narcissist?
Sam attempts to make something useful out of something that was done to him without his consent (“Metamorphosis.”) Dean punches him and threatens to leave, making the violation of the infant Sam about Dean’s anger and pain. But Sam is the narcissist?
Sam jumps into Lucifer’s Cage, to be interred with two angry archangels who will torture him for all eternity. He has sacrificed his life and his afterlife to save not just the world but Dean. Dean’s response? ”Where’s my grand prize? All I got’s my brother in a hole!” (“Swan Song.”) Sam will spend the rest of time being tortured and Dean is worried about his reward. But Sam is the narcissist?
Sam returns from the dead. Dean is more concerned about his anger that Sam has been back for a year than about celebrating the fact that his brother is alive. Again, he is not actually happy for more than a minute that Sam is alive; he is more concerned with his hurt that Sam gave him a chance to be happy with Lisa. But Sam is the narcissist?
When Cas deliberately destroyed Sam’s mental health Dean was more concerned for his feelings and his time. He said, “Because we never catch a break. So why would we this time? Just this one thing…” He had no thoughts for Sam’s actual mental health, only his own inconvenience. Sam decided to conceal his own problems for as long as he could specifically to spare Dean and Bobby the inconvenience of taking care of him. But Sam’s the narcissist?